Synchronicity: Before Completion

In less than two weeks I have my final therapy session with L. I have been caught up in a back-and-forth whirlwind of feelings, switching between courage and fear, happiness and grief, adventure and clinging. I cannot exactly say why it is that I know I am done. I just know it in my body somewhere that I am. Yet, I am still sometimes afraid to step into and follow through with the choices I make.

My therapist introduced me to the I Ching some time ago, and I have written about it here before. I do like asking it questions when my mind is scattered in some way, because it helps me to feel a sense of understanding of the greater forces or themes that I can connect with. It helps me to feel calmer, to be in touch with these concepts outside of myself. I relax.

I asked it: “How can I approach the post-therapy phase?”.

It answered with hexagram 64: Before Completion. This hexagram is at the very end of the I Ching, and reads:

above LI THE CLINGING, FLAME
below K’AN THE ABYSMAL, WATER

This hexagram indicates a time when the transition from disorder to order is not yet completed. The change is indeed prepared for, since all the lines in the upper trigram are in relation to those in the lower. However, they are not yet in their places. While the preceding hexagram offers an analogy to autumn, which forms the transition from summer to winter, this hexagram presents a parallel to spring, which leads out of winter’s stagnation into the fruitful time of summer. With this hopeful outlook the Book of Changes come to its close.

I won’t copy the rest of it here, but you can easily look it up. I find it so strange that in asking about the end of therapy, the I Ching answers with the hexagram related to new beginnings. It is true that therapy is ending: but L and I have also talked about new beginnings, paradigm shifts, new ways of approaching both the world, and our journey together, our relationship. We have talked about and have a shared love and drive towards social change, a shift in our ways of thinking and connecting with other people. I have written about this before, the closing of the old, the opening of the new. But I didn’t expect to get this result, now. It feels too perfect.

I also should not forget about the changing lines. The hexagram changes to 16: Enthusiasm.

above CHêN THE AROUSING, THUNDER
below K’UN THE RECEPTIVE, EARTH

The strong line in the fourth place, that of the leading official, meets with response and obedience from all the other lines, which are all weak. The attribute of the upper trigram, Chên, is movement; the attributes of K’un, the lower, are obedience and devotion. This begins a movement that meets with devotion and therefore inspires enthusiasm, carrying all with it. Of great importance, furthermore, is the law of movement along the line of least resistance, which in this hexagram is enunciated as the law for natural events and for human life.

All of it seems utterly clear to me: move in sympathy with the spirit of the people, and don’t fight against the natural law of things. Embrace it. Allow things to develop naturally as they do and will, adjust in co-creation, and do so in togetherness and harmony, not resistance to what is and what will be.

My journey with L is not just therapy. Rather, it touches me personally, spiritually, politically, and in some deep way beyond any given action or word in any single moment. A greater shift emerges – I feel it, I let it take me. My journey with L also appears complete, but in many ways it is not. We are facing an ending, and also a beginning. We find ourselves in the midst of a shift (for us as individuals, but also far beyond) that we can only approach with natural, flowing movement in joy and in enthusiasm, with love and unity.

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